Have you ever suffered from bouts of erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation (especially when it mattered the most to you to perform well)?
It’s completely normal. It’s also completely avoidable. And it can be so much better.
Want to turn your sex life from something that gives you anxiety into something that you confidently crave? Want to know that you can be up for the challenge whenever it presents itself? Want to know that you will forever be able to sexually provide for your partner?
What You Need To Stop Doing
A lifetime of poor sexual conditioning has made your pelvic floor muscles (and therefore your erections) weaker than they could be, and your sexual awareness less than ideal.
With a few simple shifts in your lifestyle, you can go from lacklustre to lasting longer (and stronger) than ever before.
1. Remove Stressors From Your Life
A stressed lifestyle hits you right where it hurts.
The raised cortisol levels in your body make your sex drive drop like a rock, and it will be harder for you to be present when you are sleeping with your partner.
Remove any and all stressors that you have control over in your life.
Do you really need to be working those extra hours of overtime? Are you sure you need to be loading up your body with coffee/energy drinks/caffeine? Are there any extra responsibilities that you can politely decline that are being thrown at you?
The more relaxed and balanced of a lifestyle you have, the better you will feel overall, and the better you will perform sexually. Add some infrequent intense workouts in the mix and your body and mind will thank you for it.
(Side note: Remember… for less stress in your life overall, you want more fun, play, and socializing, less grinding, hustling, and overtime)
2. Stop Watching Porn
If you’ve read any of my articles in the past you know that I’m a big fan of quitting (or severely limiting your exposure to) pornography.
Multiple studies have come out that document the fact that excessive (or even moderate) porn usage negatively affects your erectile strength and ability to become aroused with your significant other.
So if you really want to strengthen your penis, cut out the porn, and over the course of the next few weeks you will see your erectile strength increasing steadily.
3. Stop Racing Towards Ejaculation
Sometimes quickies are amazing, but if your method of operation is to masturbate and race to ejaculation as quickly as possible then you’re missing out on a lot of prime penis strengthening time.
I’ll go into depth regarding this near the end of the article, but suffice it to say that if you make it over the five minute hump then (as you will soon find out) it will be the fastest way to grow and strengthen your penis (and therefore erections) available to you.
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What You Need To Start Doing Mentally
1. Recognize Anxious Thoughts
Listen to your internal dialogue as you start to get physical with your partner.
Do your thoughts leap to “I hope I’ll perform well this time” or “Come on penis, get up!”?
If they do, then this internal battle is not helping your little guy spring into action.
Remember, like a freight train that needs to gain momentum, it takes everyone some time to become physically ready to have sex. Have patience with yourself and focus on the sensations your body is feeling.
2. Name The Elephant In The Room
If erectile dysfunction (even infrequent E.D.) has been a semi-consistent pattern for you, make sure that you let your partner in on it.
It may be awkward the first time you bring it up, but suffering in silence doesn’t help either one of you. In fact, many women will assume that it might be because you don’t find them attractive in that moment- so the quicker you can name the elephant in the room the better for both of you.
3. Realize That Porn Has Misled You
People are generally aware of the level of trickery that goes into major blockbuster Hollywood films (like Transformers), but what people often don’t know is that porn is just as fake.
Having known several people who have worked in porn (on and off the camera) I can assure you that the seemingly stallion-like men that appear in porn don’t operate like that in real life. On a real porn set, the performers stop and start frequently and can even edit several weeks of filming into one scene.
So yes, it is entirely possible to last for hours on end. But the expectation that you should be able to have sex four hours straight without even temporary breaks throughout? Extremely unrealistic.
It’s completely natural to go partially soft during sex. Don’t think that because the guys in porn (seem like they) don’t take breaks that you shouldn’t be.
So remember to let go of the performance mindset. It’s okay to go limp, it happens to everyone (and besides, your mouth and hands still work).
What You Need To Start Doing Physically
Kegel exercises (flexing and holding the muscles that stop the flow of urine – often referred to as the PC/pubococcygeus/pelvic floor muscles) are a great way to begin reconnecting yourself with your genitals.
We are so disconnected from our sexuality and our penises in our daily lives that even a few quick pulses can remind us that we are sexual beings.
While simple kegel exercises won’t give you a six pack in your pants, they are a great first step. Try these out for a couple of weeks in increasing levels of difficulty (greater number of pulses, or longer holds) and you’ll be on your way to a stronger and firmer erection in no time.
2. Power Kegels
To take your kegels up a notch, masturbate to arousal and drape dry hand towels over your penis and do modified pull ups. Once this gets easier, make the hand towels wet with water, and then graduate to small beach towels after that. (Side note: for ease of implementation I have a client who always keeps a few small washcloths in his shower so that he can soak them, do a few sets of exercises, and then hang them up to dry in the shower.)
Do these exercises twice a week for separate sessions of ten minutes and you will noticeably strengthen your penis within a few weeks. Remember what I said earlier in the article? It’s a common misconception that you can’t grow your penis naturally. While your penis isn’t entirely a muscle, depending on your genetic make up, your penis is made up of somewhere between 30-60% smooth muscle tissue and grows or shrinks depending on how you use it.
And remember to take days off in between your kegel sessions. Just like any other muscles on your body, the muscles of your pelvic floor actually strengthen in days of rest (not during the exercises themselves).
3. Masturbation Without Porn
To begin your reconnection with your cock, masturbate without the use of porn. Porn is an external stimulus that takes your mind off of the physical sensations you are feeling and into the realm of being an observer. By cutting out porn and being pushed to use your imagination (you know, like before porn existed at your finger tips) you will start to re-sensitize to your body and your sexual arousal arch.
The more awareness you have of what your physical level of arousal is the more control you will have over your erections and ejaculations with your partner.
4. The “9-5 Technique”
This is by far the best exercise to strengthen your penis while simultaneously upgrading your sexual stamina to master-level. This is self-love on steroids.
Masturbate to arousal (without porn) and, on an internal scale of 1 to 10, through the quickening and slowing down of your manual stimulation you want to be rising and falling your sexual arousal between a 5 to a 9.
For simplicity’s sake let’s say that a 5 is where you are still quite erect but your mind has calmed down quite a bit, and a 9 is nearing the point of no return but staying a safe distance away from it so you can ease back down to a 5.
You want to do this rising and falling pattern between 9 and 5 for sessions of greater than 20 minutes. It might sound like a lot, but I promise that once you make it past the five minute mark it gets considerably easier.
Have patience with yourself, and realize that with each round of 9-5 that you do, you become more aware of your sexual arousal arch, your penis gets stronger, and you gain more control over your ejaculatory response… all of which equal you being a better love with greater sexual stamina. You will even notice results with your partner after just one or two sessions.
5. Deep Breathing
If you ever need to speed up your ejaculation, tense as many of your major muscle groups as possible and hold your breath. If you ever want to slow down and elongate your sexual session, relax your muscles and breathe deeply into your belly.
Deep breathing is one of the fastest ways to gain more control over your increasing sexual arousal. Consciously check in with your body, breathe deeply into your belly, and relax your muscles while focusing all of your energy on the sensations that your body is feeling.
Turns out the old “think of baseball” disassociation technique doesn’t do much good after all!
Strengthen Your Penis For Better Sex: Lasting Longer and Harder
Your penis is like a barometer for how confident you feel in your life. If your sexual essence is soft and limp, then so is your drive in other areas of your life. While the strength and stamina of your cock are far from the only things that help you to be the best lover possible, it’s a good place to start for your sexual confidence.
Put in the work, strengthen your penis naturally by trying out a few of the exercises, and your partner will thank you. Or better yet, check out this video course called Supercharge Your Sex Life that helps you with all of the above (and a whole lot more!).
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